Since Becoming a Minimalist started I’ve focused on clearing the clutter and streamlining my processes. I’ve culled relationships that weren’t nurturing anymore and mostly just done away with anything that didn’t have meaning.
Now I have to do the work
There are no distractions any longer. No excuses. I’ve come to a point that I can’t put off the work. I’ve dreamed for years of being a writer full time and yet I procrastinated and made excuses for why I didn’t pursue it. He didn’t support me or converse with me enough about it. No one took me seriously. Why would they? I didn’t take it seriously. I never put in the writing time, the reading, the learning, the work. What did I think was going to happen?
Two things make me happiest in life besides my children. Those are minimalism and writing. I don’t have time to waste. The minimalism has a good foundation. I hope to build upon that by speaking locally on the subject and helping others in my community to see the freedom that comes with minimalism. The writing simply needs work and comittment. I need to make the time and effort to read and write. A lot. Every day. Seven days a week. It’s not rocket science.
Maintaining focus now
One of the hardest things to do is to maintain focus. I’m great at getting started. I can start a project, move to a new city, or make that first phone call any time you want. It’s the follow through that is hard. I’m like a butterfly onto something else in an instant. I’m not sure why but other people tell me that they have similar issues. Part of it is how technology has become such a part of us and how it intentionally makes us move to the next thing that catches our eye. The other side of the challenge of focus is simple human nature. I was raised with a perfectionist father that criticized everything. I never want to finish anything for fear of hearing that voice inside my head saying it’s not good enough. I’m too old to blame him now but it’s something that stands in my way of finishing things. Time to FOCUS and it doesn’t have to be perfect.
steps to regain focus
- Stop Multitasking
- Block out your days
- Get your blood pumping
- Help your technology help you
- Change up what’s in your headphones
- Streamline your communication
- Find an environment with the right kind of noise
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Fall in love
Instead of looking ahead to achieving the goal, fall in love witht he process. If you want to publish a best selling novel then you must fall in love with writing, not fall in love with being a famous writer. See the difference?
Narrow down your goals and pick the most important and throw the rest away. This is probably the key point of focus. You can’t pile a number of things on your To Do list then expect to do all of them well. When you choose the most important thing to focus on in your life consider the process. Do you love the process of a minimalist lifestyle or do you just want a clean house? There’s a difference. Those that are successful fall in love.
Somewhere along the way we all learned to multitask and the world started using that as a status symbol for importance. The more people can talk about how busy they are, the more they feel important. I’ve got news. That’s not it.
Take a look at the really successful people, the ones that lead a peaceful existence and life seems effortless. They aren’t running around frantically trying to get to all of their kids’ sports events that they’ve packed into the weekend. The people that have stopped multitasking and focused on doing one thing well, are the happiest and most successful people around. Delegate, take a few things off of your plate, and change the way you do simple routines. You would be amazed at how much you can focus and accomplish dreams.
DOn’t be afraid to go away
Somehow I finally woke up and realized two simple things at our house. I don’t have to be in charge of everything because I’m not the only one old enough to be responsible, and it’s okay if I have time away from the family.
I know. I found that I was becoming more and more resentful of spending my whole weekend in the chair next to my husband and teen. Understand that they were both involved in their individual reading or watching but expected me to be right there “with them”. When I woke up from that bad dream I cleared out the extra room upstairs and made a Girl Cave. I went to the thrift store and bought an old cushioned rocking chair with character then I ordered the little fireplace heater and a corner desk. There’s room for my yoga mat and several plants. In the afternoon the sun hits just right to make the room simply glorious. I wake up early and go in there for coffee and writing. In the afternoons I take my tea and listen to an audio book. On the weekend I excuse myself unapologetically now and go to the thrift store, have lunch with a friend, or take the dogs out. At first I got the looks and occasionally my husband appears to fret a bit. Then we spend quality time together hiking or taking in a stage production and all is right again. Having the time away to read and write really helps me focus on writing.
Block out time
This is essential to focus. Carve out time in your schedule to focus on whatever is the most important. First you have to decide what is most important. Mine was writing. I finally made it a priority. Somehow I just kept dreaming and talking about it but never took action. After I made a space to write I started getting up earlier and now I’m this crazy artistic type that gets up at 2 and 3 am to write. Then I’m in bed by 830 pm. This is what works for me. I can’t wait to bound out of bed in the morning. If I accidently sleep in until 4 or 5 I’m resentful that I didn’t get enough time in. Finding the right time of day that you can do your best work is important. Other people like to work late or some have their best focus in the middle of the day. Do what works not what everyone else does. Some people do well after work at night. I am focused on family time after tea so I only come home and wind down with a cup of tea and an audio book for a few minutes. Then I’m spending time with my family until it’s time for bed. This works well for all of us.
Becoming a minimalist isn’t just about the clutter of physical objects. I find it to be holistic in the sense of only keeping what nutures me. Minimalism is proper selection of a chosen life. In the last five years I’ve looked at everything from relationships to free time and onward to my dreams. Being able to focus on my dream started with clearing the clutter of too many objects, worn out relationships that sapped my energy instead of lifting me up, and then I learned to minimize the time that I spent focused on things that didn’t matter.